What is a Healer?
When we hear the word “healer”, we automatically think of someone that we would seek out for healing. You know, like a doctor, therapist, massage therapist, acupuncturist, etc. Of course, these guys and many other types of therapists are healers in the most literal sense.
But, this isn’t necessarily always the case.
Healers trigger something within you to heal yourself.
Sometimes a Healer is someone that triggers within you your own ability for healing yourself. Someone that makes you take a step back and look at yourself from an outsider’s perspective.
It may feel like you are under attack and the world is against you. But, if you truly take a moment to stop and listen to the criticism and suggestions thrown in your face, you might realize that it isn’t the world around you that needs changing. The changes need to come from within yourself. And all of this is being asked of you out of love.
True healers never ask for changes to please only themselves.
Expecting people to change themselves purely for selfish reasons is not the mark of a healer. That is a big red flag of a self-righteous narcissist. Someone who expects everyone to act or do things a certain way, or face the consequences of their anger.
A healer influences change in someone for the greater good of the person that needs to make the changes. As well as for the greater good of all who come in contact with said person.
The process of healing ain’t always pretty.
No one likes to hear about themselves. It is never fun to face criticism and to face your own inner demons.
- Raw emotions and feelings of betrayal will inevitably relentlessly swirl through your mind and body for days on end.
- Sleep will be lost.
- Appetite will change.
- All concentration on daily tasks will fly right out of the window.
- You will feel like everyone is against you
All of this just means that you are fighting the changes that you know you need to make.
If someone says to you that you need to change the way you behave towards others (for example) yet, you know in your heart that this person has no idea what they are talking about, you wouldn’t find offense.
It would be easy to just laugh it off and go on about your business, avoiding that one person.
But, if there is anger that is sparked inside of you, it is a sign that you don’t like what you are hearing. You know it may be true. Moreover, you are resisting with every fiber of your being the change that needs to be made.
Changing oneself is never easy.
After all the rage and sadness subside, it is time to work on yourself. It took many years to create the problems that you are now facing, and it can take a very long time to back it up and change your ways.
Be patient with yourself.
Take time for yourself.
Love yourself.
And (this is important) don’t push the people that try to help you out of your life.